My phone has been rendered useless, except for the clock
function, until I get it registered. I actually find that being out of the loop
is sort of liberating, until I actually need to reach someone. That was the
case last night. I had two movie tickets for “The Revenant” and my friend was
late. I thought of asking a woman if I could use her phone but that seemed like
such a strange request to make of a complete stranger. I informed a couple
employees at the cinema that my friend was late and to please let her in if
they saw her. I described her appearance: short blond hair. That’s all I needed
to say since both features are hair-rarities here in Turkey. Most Turkish women
have long dark hair, so I knew my friend would stand out. I took my seat just
as the previews were ending and the movie beginning. I wondered if I was doing
the right thing by going in and not waiting longer or borrowing someone’s phone
to call her.
My inner dialogue about my friend added to the tension of
the film. “What if she’s in trouble? No, she probably just fell asleep. But
what if she’s in trouble? No, she probably was on her way and bumped into
friends and got carried away talking to them.” I was finally able to relax when
I saw her shadowy figure enter the theater. I waved and she took her seat next
to me, removing her coat to reveal pajamas. “I fell asleep and forgot to set my
alarm,” she whispered.
I was so relieved, especially since I’ve had two friendships
in the last five years end over my unwillingness to wait for them longer. My
limit is about twenty minutes.
I should clarify that overseas friendships with Americans can
be overly dramatic. One woman was so enraged by my non-persistence to get in
touch with her -- although she wasn’t answering her phone -- that she called me
a “truly horrible human being” the next time she saw me. I guess she expected
me to slit my wrists and go bleed in the sidewalk as penance for not waiting
longer than twenty minutes. I’ve learned that this woman fits in with a whole
species of entitled, insane, self-important Americans living abroad.
A fun fact about this odd species is that if someone does
anything to awaken their wrath, everything unpleasant that happens to them
after that incident will be the fault of the person who
stirred their anger in the first place. So, if crazy American spills tea on herself,
stubs her toe, breaks a nail, gets coughed on by a sick person, smells
someone’s horrible body odor, etc., it’s the fault of the wrongdoer who somehow
put a curse on her day.
In the words of Meriwether Lewis, after being chased up a
tree by one too many grizzly bears, “The curiosity of our men with respect to
this animal is pretty much satisfied.” Amen.
I’ve been feeling more thin-skinned and woundable than my
normal self, and I don’t think I could have handled losing a friend, or even
being reprimanded for deciding to see the film with or without her.
Fortunately, everything was okay. She was worried I would be mad at her, which
I wasn’t. But because she was late, she missed the bear scene, which was
perhaps the best scene from the film. I felt compelled to act it out for her
when we left the theater, trying my best to relay the sheer awesomeness. I don’t
think I did the scene justice.
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